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Since tomorrow is our 3rd anniversary, I thought I’d write a little bit about SleepyHusband and me.

We met in college in a language class. It took me a couple of weeks to notice him, since he always sat all the way in the back and, ahem, missed classes here and there. Once I noticed him, I really noticed him. Partly because his hair was long and crazy curly, but also because he was cute and really good at talking the teacher into giving us less homework.

We were both clearly interested, but it took awhile to do anything about it because he was a senior in his spring semester so most of his social life revolved around hitting the bars with his friends. I was only 20 at the time, so no bars for me. Eventually his roommate, who was also in our class and apparently also interested in me (awkward), called and invited me to hang out with them. We ended up at a party, had our first real conversation, and the rest was history.

This was a little over seven years ago. He graduated, but moved back to the area to see where things would go between us. It was big, him moving halfway across the country solely because of me. I wasn’t nervous about it though, it really just strikes me now as being a little crazy. We’d only gotten together in April, and been apart all summer. We weren’t even really “serious” before I left for the summer. When I found out he was coming, however, I was 100% happy about it. Being young college/just out of college kids, we had a few ups and downs. As of my senior year we were together for good.

We moved in together when I graduated after about 2 1/2 years of dating. We were engaged 1 1/2 years after that, and married only 6 or 7 months later thanks to my mother’s crazy wedding planning skills (more than one of my friends asked if she was renting out her services). We spent our first year of marriage in another country. Can’t believe it’s been 3 years, it’s cliche but time really does go so fast. Soon, SH will be entering his last year of his 20’s.

Tomorrow we are going to the aquarium, and then a restaurant. No clue where we are going to eat yet. I’ve been poking around restaurant ratings. We want to try something new instead of the same old favorites. They are favorites for a reason, but the same places year after year get a little stale. As I’ve gotten older I’ve also found that fine dining to a college kid isn’t necessarily fine dining at all.

Like any couple, we have our arguments and flaws. I’m always reading that men want to solve problems while women just want to be able to vent and get some sympathy. It is the opposite with us, I want to solve every problem logically while SH sometimes just wants to complain about something without getting 20 suggestions of how he can fix it thrown at him. Despite this, we’ve been happy together and I think we will continue to be happy together.

SH and I have an in joke together that we have to ask for relationship extensions. Marriage was at least a two year contract, with extensions given when the current contract runs out on our anniversary. Right now we are debating whether we should have a one year or two year extension. Of course none of this is serious, just teasing. But I think the two year extension is looking good 🙂


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Kim over at Love Letters to the Library was on twitter sharing tidbits of her old diaries, and it inspired me to go look through my old blog from college. I ended up reading the whole damn thing, and it was fun! Of course, it is embarrassing to see how silly I was back then, but I’ll probably be saying the same thing 5 years from now about this diary.

Of course my favorite entry was posted on April 4th, 2004 –

“One door closes… and another opens. i guess that really is true *huge grin*” Later in that same entry I wrote “guy from my italian class called me last night because his friends in film class needed female extras for their movie. so i went in, and it ended up being me and one other girl and about 15 senior guys. the filming went from 6-9:15. looong time. but afterwards they were just like “thanks, come watch the Duke/UConn game and drink with us in our room.” and i had nothing else to do so i went and chilled with them all night. it was a blast. they promised me a copy of the movie :)” I didn’t mention that it was connected to that “open door,” which wasn’t a door at all but a cute senior who would grow up to be SleepyHusband.

Some quotes that I loved then, and still love now –

Listen, Coop. Last night was really great. You were incredibly romantic and heroic, no doubt about it. And that’s great. But I’ve thought about it, and my thing is this. Andy is really hot. And don’t get me wrong, you’re cute too, but Andy is like, cut. From marble. He’s gorgeous. He has this beautiful face and this incredible body, and I genuinely don’t care that he’s kinda lame. I don’t even care that he cheats on me. And I like you more than I like Andy, Coop, but I’m 16. And maybe it’ll be a different story when I’m ready to get married, but right now, I am entirely about sex. I just wanna get laid. I just wanna take him and grab him and fuck his brains out, ya know? So that’s where my priorities are right now. Sex. Specifically with Andy and not with you. – Katie, “Wet, Hot, American Summer”

“Summer is the time when one sheds one’s tensions with one’s clothes, and the right kind of day is jeweled balm for the battered spirit. A few of those days and you can become drunk with the belief that all’s right with the world. ”

Tidbits about our relationship –

He called me last night, i’m always in a pretty good mood when i get to talk to him, he cracks me up. we both suck at giving and recieving compliments, so the general gist of us complimenting each other is “you are ruining my damn summer cause i miss you goddamnit.”

“we both just realized that our romance with a nice convenient time limit had turned into something more while we weren’t looking.”

“Why do i have to be so sappy? i feel just like charlton heston at the end of planet of the apes. you know what? its really hot in this computer lab, that is the only explaination as to why i am being so weird right now. that, and i will type pretty much anything to avoid going back to my apt and studying for my exams.”

And of course this –

“i hope i don’t read this someday thinking “oh, she THOUGHT things were going well, little did she know!” hehe.”

Reminicing about my time in Ireland –

“M mentioned the time we got drunk and got really excited about smoked salmon not being as gross as we thought it would be. “this smoked salmon is surprisingly delicious!” adelaide mentioned the time i had to go find my phone in a bar because the bartender asked for my number and i didn’t have it memorized. kevin mentioned the time we spent like, an hour, exchanging excuses not to have dinner with someone “oh, i don’t know kevin, i had a late lunch.” and so on.”

Some more quotes I liked, and it is nice to rediscover them! –

…serious quotes of the moment
5. “Death twitches in my ear, ‘live,’ he says. ‘I am coming.'” – Virgil
4. “A ship in harbor is safe – but that is not what ships are for.” – John A. Shedd
3. “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa
2. “The cure for anything is salt water – sweat, tears, or the sea.” – Isak Dineson
1. “The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” – Alan K. Chambers

…funny quotes of the moment
5. “You can’t wait for inspiration, you have to go after it with a club.” – Jack London
4. “I try to take one day at the time, but sometimes several days attack me all at once.” – Anon.
3. “You can’t trample infidels when you are a tortiose. I mean, all you can do is give them a meaningful look.” – Terry Prachett
2. “The world is conspiring in your favor.” – Grafitti on the front of MMA
1. “Anything that happens, happens. Anything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Anything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again. It doesn’t neccessarily do it in chronological order though.” – Douglas Adams

Fun to go back! Even if a lot of it was seeing how ridiculous I was, and how often I used and misspelled the word ridiculous.

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